Why do people think that having a child before you are married means your life is over?

I understand that having a child in wedlock is the ideal situation but it just doesn't always happen that way. I had my son eight months ago and since having him my life has only gotten better. I am not with his father but the man I am with loves him like his own. I started online schooling and I no longer live at home. People who say that you will never become anything in life after having a baby out of wedlock don't really know people who improve their lives for the child's benefit. I can say without a doubt if I had not had my son I would not be on the road to where I am today. For those of you who are wondering I am 24 years old.